My 20s: A Journey of Personal Growth and Lessons Learned
Table of contents
- Don't blindly follow others' life lessons.
- One Size Doesn't Fit All
- The Power of 'Why?'
- A healthy Mind is in a healthy body
- Approach New Topics with an Open Mind
- Don't Compare yourself with others, but yourself
- Embrace the fact that you will be wrong sometimes, and remain open to change and growth.
- Invest in Yourself
- People Skills Matter
- Don't waste your time searching for "the best resource/course/book/etc."
- Life moves quickly; ensure you take time to reflect on your actions and goals.
- Your Life > Your Career:
- In Summary
Hello there! As I look back on my 20s, I realize I've gone through a lot, and it's a great opportunity to reflect and gather the lessons that have shaped me. Let's walk through them together, and remember, these are my lessons. Your experiences, goals, and values might lead you to different conclusions.
Don't blindly follow others' life lessons.
It's tempting to take other people's life lessons as universal truths, but remember, we all have unique life experiences, We all lead different lives, influenced by unique events and times. Our goals and values also differ significantly. Hence, what worked for someone else might not necessarily work for you. It's always important to reflect on advice and adapt it to your personal circumstances.
One Size Doesn't Fit All
Let's talk about learning methods. I've noticed that success isn't always about following a prescribed path. Two people can employ radically different learning strategies yet achieve the same score. If they were to swap methods, their success might plummet. This reinforces the idea that we all have distinct ways of absorbing and processing information. Embrace your unique learning style and tweak it as you evolve.
The Power of 'Why?'
Never underestimate the power of asking "Why?" This simple question can unlock deeper understanding and insight. The backstory behind a concept or decision often reveals the context and factors that influenced it. However, it's important to strike a balance - don't barrage people with "whys" without doing your own research first.
A healthy Mind is in a healthy body
Prioritize your physical health. It's the foundation upon which all other aspects of your life are built. Even something as simple as a regular walk can significantly improve your well-being.
Approach New Topics with an Open Mind
Approach new topics or concepts with a fresh, unbiased mind. It's easy to carry preconceived notions and second-hand ideas into our learning process. However, these can sometimes obscure the truth. Instead, strive to build your own perspective based on your experiences. This doesn't mean dismissing experts' insights, but rather understanding their perspectives fully - the what, how, and why - before incorporating them into your own worldview.
Don't Compare yourself with others, but yourself
Stop comparing yourself to others. It's crucial to understand that everyone's life journey is as unique as their fingerprints. Different circumstances, different goals, and different timelines mean that comparing yourself to someone else is not just unhelpful, it's often misleading. Focus on your own progress. Are you better than you were yesterday? That's the comparison that truly matters and the one that will help you move forward.
Embrace the fact that you will be wrong sometimes, and remain open to change and growth.
Being wrong is not a dead end; it's a detour to improvement. Just as software evolves through updates, so do we. Each version of ourselves can be better than the last, with fewer bugs and more features. When you accept that being wrong is an inevitable part of the human experience, you open yourself up to growth and learning. It's a brave step to take but a necessary one on the path to personal excellence.
Invest in Yourself
Your twenties are a goldmine of opportunity, the perfect time to invest in yourself and your education. The efforts you put into personal development during this decade can define your future. Don't hold back on investing time, effort, and yes, even money into expanding your knowledge and skillset. With the vast array of learning resources available online, the world truly is your classroom. Through your twenties, you mostly have the advantage of less risk and more time to try and explore new things. Embrace it!
People Skills Matter
You will often work in a team, and learning how to collaborate with others and communicate effectively is a crucial skill. Mastering the art of listening, explaining, leading, and discussing is essential.
In our interconnected world, social skills are just as important as technical know-how. Whether it's in the workplace or personal relationships, the ability to work in a team, communicate effectively, and empathize with others is invaluable. These skills enable you to connect, collaborate, and lead—fundamental actions for success in any field.
Don't waste your time searching for "the best resource/course/book/etc."
The quest for the "best" resource can be an endless and unproductive pursuit. What's best for one may not be for another. Instead, be resourceful. Choose a resource that resonates with you and start learning. Real progress comes from application, so take what you learn and put it into practice. It's in doing that we truly understand and retain knowledge.
Life moves quickly; ensure you take time to reflect on your actions and goals.
Life moves quickly, and in the hustle, it's easy to lose sight of where we're headed. That's why it's essential to regularly pause and reflect. Are your actions still aligned with your goals? Does what you're chasing reflect what's truly important to you? These moments of reflection can recalibrate your direction, ensuring your speed is taking you where you actually want to go.
Your Life > Your Career:
Lastly, remember that your life is much more than your career. Yes, professional advancement is significant, but it's not the sum total of your existence. Your life's tapestry is woven with threads of family ties, friendships, hobbies, and passions. Make sure you're dedicating time to these aspects as well. They provide balance, happiness, and a sense of wholeness.
These are the lessons that have guided me through my 20s. Take what resonates with you, and remember to keep learning, growing, and embracing the journey of life. Here's to the next 20 years!